Three fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Three fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Technique 1:Don’t criticize, condemn or complain

        When dealing with people, we’re not dealing with creatures of logic.  We are dealing with creatures of emotion; creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity. As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation. Wrongdoers blame everybody but themselves.  The person we’re going to condemn and correct will probably justify him or herself, and condemn us in return. Someone said this,” “Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.” To apply this technique I will try not to provoke anyone against me and be calm to others.

Technique 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation

“The big secret in dealing with people”

       Honest and sincere appreciation is the most effective tool used sparingly by the majority of people. The effectiveness of this tool has been undermined by many due to various reasons. There are many issues when it comes to appreciating someone. While your inner self might be thumping out loud to go ahead and appreciate, the other part of your mind holds back you so strongly that you lose all courage at the time. To give honest and sincere appreciation you need to do think of the person and not any of the negatives about him/her, tell the person that you appreciate the act, try to relate it to an incident and how the act has surpassed all expectations, and thank them again for the much-appreciated thing. These are some ways to make the person feel appreciated. I always appreciate people and my parents when they give me things that will help me later on.

Technique 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want

“He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot, walks a lonely way.”

       Understanding the other person and what they want, hope for, desire – what motivates them – is key. It’s not about YOU, it’s about them. If making more money is your thing that’s not necessarily someone else’s carrot. The same could be said for title or position. Not everyone wants to be a VP, company owner, head coach or some other highly visible position. For some people that motivation is easily seen and tapped into but when it comes to others you have to pay close attention. For some people the motivation is a sense of belonging, knowing they’re making a difference, family, hobbies, etc. Sometimes making something seem special, something not many people can have, or do, is what does the trick. To handle these type of people you must not criticize, condemn or complain, give honest, sincere appreciation, and arouse in the other person an eager want. Choose the right. 

Reflection

       Well first of all I will try to follow technique one because if you don’t criticize people you won’t get commented back and you won’t have any problems to deal with and no need to argue. Be a positive thinking trying to help others out in problems there in and not criticizing them. Being honest is the main key to success because many people would want to hear the truth and not the lie. Being honest makes other people feel calm and make the person believe you in some way. Always make the other person feel happy on many ways so that they can succeed in life and be proud of them. I will not criticize no one because there is no reason to, always be honest because no one likes to hear lies and regret giving you opportunities, and also make people happy and make them succeed in life.