The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Habit 1: Be proactive

“Habit 1 is the key to unlocking all other habits and that’s why it comes first. It says,” I am the captain of my life. I can choose my attitude. I’m responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness. I am in the driver’s seat of my destiny, not just a passenger.”

       No one else is going to get you where you want to go, it’s up to you. Take ownership of your problems, and realize that nobody else is going to solve them for you. The most effective way to handle a problem is to focus on finding a solution. Focusing on things that are out of your control is a waste of time, so focus on what you can control with the final outcome. Some people’s approach to achieving goals is both simple and effective: set your goal and then work backwards from that goal to establish metrics to track and evaluate it. It’s important to have a clearly defined goal that is quantifiable so you can determine if you actually reached it or not. Be humble and take a hard look at what you are doing and how you are doing it. Be completely honest with yourself about what is not working instead of making excuses.

Habit 2: Begin with the end in mind

“Control your own destiny or someone else will”

      The physical creation follows the mental, just as a building follows a blueprint. It's about connecting again with your own uniqueness and then defining the personal, moral, and ethical guidelines within which you can most happily express and fulfill yourself. Begin with the End in Mind means to begin each day, task, or project with a clear vision of your desired direction and destination, and then continue by flexing your proactive muscles to make things happen. It focuses on what you want to be and do. It is your plan for success. It reaffirms who you are, puts your goals in focus, and moves your ideas into the real world. Your mission statement makes you the leader of your own life. You create your own destiny and secure the future you envision.

Habit 3: Put First Things First

“Organize and execute around priorities”

     You have to recognize that not doing everything that comes along is okay. There's no need to overextend yourself. All it takes is realizing that it's all right to say no when necessary and then focus on your highest priorities. Everybody has tasks s/he does not like. Recognizing when these tasks are so important they have become ‘the first thing’ and doing them first is what disciplined people do. But being disciplined is also about not doing tasks when they do not have priority. You should question yourself regularly whether the matter you are turning your attention to is urgent or important, or maybe both. Realize that whenever you say ‘yes’ to one thing, you will no longer have time for something else. Time is the most valuable and least replaceable of all resources.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win

“Think win-win or no deal”

     Think Win-Win isn’t about being nice, nor is it a quick-fix technique. It is a character-based code for human interaction and collaboration. Win-win requires that you be both. It is a balancing act between courage and consideration. To go for win-win, you not only have to be empathic, but you also have to be confident. You not only have to be considerate and sensitive, you also have to be brave. To do that–to achieve that balance between courage and consideration–is the essence of real maturity and is fundamental to win-win. The opportunities over here are as big as all outdoors…and each hour of each day, the task will grow easier, and more satisfying – for all of us.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to be understood

“Diagnose before you prescribe.”

       Things are not your problem and yet you immediately associate the problem with your own experiences and before you know you blurt out an advice. Check how you react to people during the next ten times you encounter someone. The reason for this is that the perception others have of you changes when you listen emphatically. Your friends, colleagues, and family will start experiencing you as an open person, and hence will start opening up themselves to you. After you find out how you are currently doing, it is time to decide where you will focus on. You can take one of the four keys of empathetic listening, and every time someone uses the word ‘problem’ or ‘issue’ or ‘can you help me’, this is your cue to implement your new way of listening and reacting.

Habit 6: Synergize

“The whole is greater than the sum of its parts (1+1=3)”

        Synergize is the habit of creative cooperation. It is teamwork, open-mindedness, and the adventure of finding new solutions to old problems. But it doesn't just happen on its own. It's a process, and through that process, people bring all their personal experience and expertise to the table. When people begin to interact together genuinely, and they’re open to each other’s influence, they begin to gain new insight. The capability of inventing new approaches is increased exponentially because of differences. We could enlarge the conversation. Draw others in from different professions and cultures. The very tangible set of benefits that would emerge would grow.

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Four Dimensions of Self-Renewal: Physical, Mental, Spiritual,  Social/Environmental

       Sharpen The Saw discusses self-renewal, self-care, self-respect and self-improvement. Sharpening The Saw must be balanced across these four 'dimensions'... otherwise an imbalance will be created. We can offset an imbalance for a while, but not long-term. When organizations ignore four-dimensional balance, inefficiencies, defensiveness and lack of synergy ensues creating a loss in productively, customer satisfaction and ultimately profitability. Sharpening The Saw is an ongoing process of personal change -- not something you can binge -- like your favorite TV show. You need to define your own balanced, four-dimensional life to be successful! If you are a leader, I believe part of your role is to help the people who report into you and/or look up to you, explore these dimensions and establish goals for themselves.

Reflection: 7 habits of Highly Effective People

       Be proactive when you are outside with others to show your good personality and make your body more energetic into the athletic activities. Begin with the End in Mind means to begin each day, task, or project with a clear vision of your desired direction and destination, and then continue by flexing your proactive muscles to make things happen. All it takes is realizing that it's all right to say no when necessary and then focus on your highest priorities. Think Win-Win isn’t about being nice, nor is it a quick-fix technique. Things are not your problem and yet you immediately associate the problem with your own experiences and before you know you blurt out an advice. Synergize is the habit of creative cooperation. Sharpening The Saw must be balanced across these four 'dimensions'... otherwise an imbalance will be created.

Three fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Three fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Technique 1:Don’t criticize, condemn or complain

        When dealing with people, we’re not dealing with creatures of logic.  We are dealing with creatures of emotion; creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity. As much as we thirst for approval, we dread condemnation. Wrongdoers blame everybody but themselves.  The person we’re going to condemn and correct will probably justify him or herself, and condemn us in return. Someone said this,” “Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.” To apply this technique I will try not to provoke anyone against me and be calm to others.

Technique 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation

“The big secret in dealing with people”

       Honest and sincere appreciation is the most effective tool used sparingly by the majority of people. The effectiveness of this tool has been undermined by many due to various reasons. There are many issues when it comes to appreciating someone. While your inner self might be thumping out loud to go ahead and appreciate, the other part of your mind holds back you so strongly that you lose all courage at the time. To give honest and sincere appreciation you need to do think of the person and not any of the negatives about him/her, tell the person that you appreciate the act, try to relate it to an incident and how the act has surpassed all expectations, and thank them again for the much-appreciated thing. These are some ways to make the person feel appreciated. I always appreciate people and my parents when they give me things that will help me later on.

Technique 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want

“He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot, walks a lonely way.”

       Understanding the other person and what they want, hope for, desire – what motivates them – is key. It’s not about YOU, it’s about them. If making more money is your thing that’s not necessarily someone else’s carrot. The same could be said for title or position. Not everyone wants to be a VP, company owner, head coach or some other highly visible position. For some people that motivation is easily seen and tapped into but when it comes to others you have to pay close attention. For some people the motivation is a sense of belonging, knowing they’re making a difference, family, hobbies, etc. Sometimes making something seem special, something not many people can have, or do, is what does the trick. To handle these type of people you must not criticize, condemn or complain, give honest, sincere appreciation, and arouse in the other person an eager want. Choose the right. 

Reflection

       Well first of all I will try to follow technique one because if you don’t criticize people you won’t get commented back and you won’t have any problems to deal with and no need to argue. Be a positive thinking trying to help others out in problems there in and not criticizing them. Being honest is the main key to success because many people would want to hear the truth and not the lie. Being honest makes other people feel calm and make the person believe you in some way. Always make the other person feel happy on many ways so that they can succeed in life and be proud of them. I will not criticize no one because there is no reason to, always be honest because no one likes to hear lies and regret giving you opportunities, and also make people happy and make them succeed in life. 

Six ways to make people like you

Six Ways to Make People Like You. If You Want

People To Like You……

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people

“Do this and you will be welcome anywhere.”

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

“Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering.”

          You don’t want to be alone without having anyone beside you giving you a hand in the future. It’s good to be with someone better than being alone. Having friends is a good thing because they will help later on in the future and you won’t be alone anymore. Having a friend is a literally because they will help you a lot and you will be proud of that. Be positive and make people like you. Make yourself a person that is open minded and look for others that are just like you and make people smile and start to hang out with them more. Be free and lets others be with you.

Rule 2: Smile

“Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says,” I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”

“You don’t feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile.”

“It creates happiness in the home, fosters goods will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends.”

           When you smile you have a good feeling about something and know that you will have a great day. Smiling at someone tells them how you feel and maybe sometimes change someone’s attitude and make them happy and makes them change in that instant. A smile is very powerful and can probably change the whole world. It’s good to smile because you forget about all the problems you face thru every day and it sometimes hurts but those smiles on your face can change you as well. Impact someone with that smile you have knowing that she will smile back or he. Smile for every reason in your life and make a living with that smile that might take you places.

  Rule 3: Remember Names

“A man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”

“If you don’t remember names, you are headed for trouble.”

          When you meet someone new you must ask for their name. Why? It’s because once you see that person again you would like to know that person’s name by memory. When you forget your friends name you will get offended but that might not happen right? Everyone has good memory there should be no reason why not to remember something. Sometimes you will feel embarrassed when you forget someone’s name. Be positive and never forget names cause you might get into trouble.   

How To Remember People’s Names

1.     repeat the person’s name, both in your head, and out loud

2.     associate names with things people tell you about themselves

3.     let the words do the work for you

4.     don’t be afraid to ask someone to repeat his or her name

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

“If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be am attentive listener.”

“Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems. “  

Being a good listener can get you anywhere in the world. Why? It’s because people in the world want people to be ready and wanting to be successful in life and be productive. With listening skills you can approach many opportunities to be in many types of jobs. Well I refer to this because tomorrow I have an interview and I need to listen to what the internship says about and I will have to tell him about myself. I need to listen in order to answer the questions I may be asked and be ready to talk about myself and show what I can do if I apply for the job. 

5 ways to be a good listener

 1.     Stay focused

              2.     Really listen

              3.     Allow for periods of silence

             4.     Repeat the other persons words or repeat back at them    

             5.     Understand the emotions behind the words

Rule 5. Talk in terms of the others man’s interest

“The royal road to a man’s heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.”

          It’s always important to talk about what the interviewer wants to know about. Why? It’s because if you don’t tell the interviewer what he wants to know you will not apply for a type of job because you lack in paying attention to what the person asked for and didn’t talk about the right things. When you talk about what they want to know then that person says okay they have good listening skills and are focused and repeat what the question was in order to answer it. Also it may happen that you say the wrong things that will give you away and lose a big opportunity to a job.

Rule 6. Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely

“The desire to be important is the deepest urge in the human nature.”(John- Dewey)”Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic.”

          When your friend or family member is feeling down or depressed always cheer them up and make them feel special because they are special. Some ways to make the person feel special again Make a note of the important events in his/her life and ask them how the events went. If they are telling a story to a group and gets cut off for some reason, be the first person to ask that person to continue telling it. When they are explaining their problem to you, listen intently without offering any solutions or advice. Notice when they change something about their physical appearance. Life is all about relationships, so let’s make a conscious effort every day to make others feel special. After all, a strong relationship isn’t built in a day; it’s built day by day.

Reflection

          What I need to do in order to do the six ways of making people to like you is that I need to be very friendly and very patient. Not everyone has a positive attitude when you first meet them but little by little you can make them hang out with you by being a good person to them. Being to close is good so that the person can feel special but not to close because then you might get into problems with that person. When your friend needs advice or help give them a hand and make them happy again by hanging out with them or giving them a drink. Most mainly be respectful to them and others in order to gain their respect towards you and be part of the group of friends.

The Six Attitudes of High Achievers

“The Six Attitudes of High Achievers”

-John R. Noe

High Achievers…… 

1. Make no small plans

            You shouldn’t make small plans because if you want to succeed more in your future you must think higher. When you make little plans you can finish it in one day and it won’t be as fun. When you bigger plans you think more, you do more, and you won’t finish it in one day which is good because it’s a big plan. You want to challenge yourself so that in the future you would be ready to go and won’t need to do as much work people do now. Always think big so that you can achieve bigger things and have a better life.

2. Do what you fear

         It is better to do what you fear because the subject or item or discussion you fear of might happen again but you never know when. You should face your fear by not doing the same mistakes that led you there and be bold. Be confident about yourself because that’s what takes higher and higher in life. Be the type of person that can do things without having any type of trouble and be a leader as well. Facing your fears is what makes you a better person. Be strong and be positive every day in your life. 

3. Are Willing To Prepare

          Before someone goes to a higher grade every student or child prepares for it. Why? It’s because you don’t want to be the person that is behind and is missing a lot of work and has to catch up. When we prepare ourselves we will be on track and not stay behind. It’s better to be prepared because sometimes when you don’t prepare you want to get a whole load of work or papers in front of you and not knowing where to put them. Preparing yourself for school and work you will success and proceed and be ahead of others maybe but stay prepared. There are challenges in the world that one must face. Be prepares and choose the right.

4. Are willing to risk failure

          Success is found by those who are willing to fail. If you are one who is not willing to fail in a particular area of life, you will make sure that you have no opportunities to fail. Focus on accepting failure as a part of trying. You want to succeed in life. Its good to make failures because from that people know that you are learning little by little. You must avoid anything that will prevent you from succeeding in life. Take risk to achieve you goal in the future.

         

5.  Are teachable

Everyone must be willing to learn new things because then how will you succeed. When you are willing to learn something you will become successful. Why? The reason why is that when you want to learn something so that once you learn it than you make a living with it. For example how do you get your profession? Well you learn what you want to learn and with that info in your brain, that topic you learned for days, weeks, months, or maybe years will get you a job and in that job you will be successful. You must be willing to learn because if not what would you be in the future. 

6. Have Heart

          It’s good to have a heart meaning have feelings for others that will need something to happen in their lives. Sometimes when you do good things to others you might feel something that you will be proud of and might want to keep doing it. Be a good person and if not people will judge you and you don’t want that. Having a heart like that will help you live longer but you want to been known as someone special and know who you really are. Be a somebody with that heart of yours. Always choose the right and be positive and help others who are in need of a good heart.

Reflection

          I believe that all these 6 attitudes of high achievers will help me in the future and make me proceed. If I use every attitude every day of my life I myself think that I will have an easy life. I want to be a high achiever and I have to do so much that it takes time as well and need to have a lot of patience so that I don’t give up easily. 

A Smile

A Smile

     A new attribute for today is a smile. The meaning of a smile is to show someone yours feelings or how you are feeling. A good quote for the word smile is, “Don’t because it’s over, smile because it happened.” This quote means a lot to someone in life. This quote is basically saying that always have a positive feeling so that once you finish you don’t put yourself down. Be happy we win or lose because all the effort you put in something you will be recognized for it.

Attitude

Attitude

The new attribute is the word attitude. The definition for attitude is,” a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person's behavior”. A quote that I like is by Jack Sparrow he says,” the problem is not the problem; the problem is your attitude about the problem”. This to me what this quote means that when you face a problem in life don’t receive it in a bad mood because that’s where the problem starts. For example I have a problem to deal with but yet I need a positive attitude so that I don’t make the problem worse.

Quote by Thomas Carlyle

    “A man without a goal is a ship without a rudder”

-Thomas Carlyle

     I can relate to this quote because once I started high school I was way off and I didn’t feel like doing anything at all that year. I started off okay that year but then I lacked off and I didn’t think of any goals and it sucked but then I saw a quote that said, “you’ll never know unless you try”. The quote impacted me and that’s when I started to have goals and started to get active and one of my main goals was to have a goal in life.